I’m constantly amazed at how the mind works.
Just the other night, my friend Helen and I were talking about a situation she had just experienced on a dating site. She is brand new to using dating sites and is baffled at the jargon and surprised by the unkept appearance of some of the men. A man contacted her in chat on the site and after a few perfunctory questions, gave her his number and asked her to call him. Helen is very internet savvy and decided to check the number. To her horror, she discovered that the number belonged to a woman who lived 24 miles from a penitentiary!
It reminded me of a Walter Mosley type novel I read many years ago where prisoner arranged with a woman who live outside the prison to accept and pass through phone calls for him. She would accept the calls and walk away from the phone.
That night I went to sleep and had the most unusual dream. While I was standing in the yard of my childhood home, a man in a police uniform walked up to me with a clipboard and asked me to read it. I said that I needed to go into the house to get my glasses. I went into the house and my baby sister, who died in 1982, was cleaning out the refrigerator. We talked and I was inside for about an hour. Upon returning outside, there were several men carrying long guns and walking the property. I never did read the information on the clipboard and forced myself to awaken.
Tweet: Even though I read the novel many years ago, my mind brought the two incidents together even expanding on them.
Having this experience reminded me of how the mind works; and the importance of being vigilant on what we allow in. Even though many of our daily thoughts come to us unbidden from the Universe, we get to be selective in the ones we allow to remain. We also get to choose the conversations we have; the materials we read, and the movies, videos and other things we watch.
So what do you do when you’re in a conversation with a friend who is going through something and wants you to listen?
- Listen with the intention of being supportive.
- Hear what they are saying.
- Offer support.
- Release the energy around it.
- Breathe, knowing that all is and will be well.
After listening and supporting your friend, it is important to change your state. Changing your state helps you take control of what you’re allowing into your mind. Taking control and being aware is paramount when noticing how the mind works.